Tuesday, October 11 2011
It’s 5PM. You just got off a long day at work and it’s Arizona so it was like 3,000 degrees outside. You get home, you're all alone and decide to cool off and relax in the pool. Your floating along and before you know it you’re drowning.
You’re faced with a frantic struggle below the surface. Every part of your body and mind is focused and working towards a single goal, survival. In that moment you’re not worried about smeared makeup or how your bikini fits. All you know is that breathing equals surviving and your situation requires complete focus and unrelenting determination to achieve that goal. Not some of your attention not a little bit of determination, all of both and success requires nothing less.
Do you want eat that pizza or achieve your goal?
Sleep in late or or achieve your goal?
Party with friends or achieve your goal?
Watch TV or achieve your goal?
Sleep, parties, T.V. shows and movies don’t matter. Success takes work, time, sacrifice, will power, discipline and a whole slue of additional buzz words. So push through, say NO! to your self destructive habits and say YES! to your success. Need it like you need to breathe.
"It's all about self motivation because at the end of the day you can have all the money and all the personal trainers in the world, but if you don't have that mindset it's not possible... You have to do it for yourself." -Jennifer Hudson
Hugs and Love,
Moni-k:)
Tuesday, August 30 2011
Sometimes we can look at someone and wish we had their life. A smile on their face, no problems and all seems wonderful. We’ve all done this from time to time. However, as we all know or will learn everyone has problems and no one is perfect.
One person that I’ve caught myself doing this to is the lovely Kim Kardashian. In my opinion she is GEORGEOUS, fabulous and of course she’s rich. Some times it seems as though she can do no wrong!! Right?...uh...but at the same time, I don’t know her. I don’t know what she cries about, what she fears, what she regrets and beats herself up about. She could be a depressed lunatic and I would never know! This is my reminder to never take anything at face value, especially reality tv.
At some point we have to realize that everything in our lives may never be perfect at the same time. Imagine if everything was perfect, life would be kind of boring, don’t ya think? What would you do?
When things are to easily obtained they seldom hold the same value. It is the challenge presented by the different events in our lives that gives our achievements and accomplishments there significance. So take hold, own your struggle, own your challenge and meet them head on. Remember to congratulate yourself each day for even the smallest of accomplishments. Your positive attitude and confidence will show and your soul will thank you:)
And you know what, someone somewhere will probably end up looking at you saying to themselves how you seem to have such a wonderful life with no problems and you always have a smile on your face.
Big Hugs and Love,
Moni-k:)
Tuesday, August 30 2011
The Debbie Downer:
Nothing is ever right. The conversation always goes back to complaining. Aches, pains, disease, "I'm so tired" and "I'm a victim" are common topics. When you try to share something positive, "I just got a promotion! I'm so happy!" they respond with, "Oh thats cool I just wish I could find a job." They always find a way to turn the engery in a room down, way down. Also, similiarly to the critic listed below, they are in constant need of attention and want to be baby'd.
The 1-Up'er
Example 1
You: Geez, what a long day, I'm so tired.
1-Up'er: You're tired, I worked a double yesterday and today, wrote a 700 page essay after work and I haven't slept in three days!
Example 2
You: My son is 13 months old and can say mommy, daddy and potty.
1-Up'er: How sweet. When my daughter was 13 months she wrote her first poem and drew the Mona Lisa.
As, Im sure you can tell the one up'er is that guy or gal who has a need to top what anyone has to say. You have good news, they have better news. You accomplish something they accomplished more and with less. These people are usually extremely competitive and feel that life is a competition and they have to beat everyone at everything. They are also in need of attention (I think I''m seeing a theme here).
The Critic
Always has to talk about other people in order to focus on something else (helps ignore what they are not accomplishing). Will often give back handed compliments. When out with friends they have no problem making a joke at your expense. These people are also very needy and constant attention is a must. They can get very hurt when you don’t call or make plans without them.
The Flake
Constantly late and almost always doesn’t pull through with what they say they are going to do. They value no ones time but their own. Will avoid conversation about something they were supposed to do so that they can forget they were supposed to do it. Unreliable.
The list can go on and on with toxic personalities and once you realize that you have a toxic personality in your midsts you must act! It may not be easy because many of the malignant masses are friends or family whom you want to be happy! However, the problem is they expect to be spoon fed. They want you to hold their hand along the way and are not willing to help themselves. Freindships, like any other realtionship, require balance and if all you are doing is giving or taking, it's time to reevaluate! Be honest with yourself and don't let your friendship comprise who you are. If you cannot confront these people, or you have and it has not made a difference, it maybe time to limit your exposure. At the very least do not feed into or become a part of their negativity.
Hopefully they will get the hint, or they wont. lol!
Either way, it’s your life, not theirs so live it to the fullest.
Hugs and Love,
Moni-k:)
Photo by Deborah Leigh
Wednesday, August 17 2011
Hello all my lovlies! How I’ve missed you these past months. I have been a busy bee lately and my most recent adventure was teaching dance at the awesome LGBTQ charity, In10. My good friend Stacey Jay Cavaliere asked me if I would like to come teach his class and of course I jumped at the chance! Anytime I can teach makes me happy. It’s not only something I love doing, but it’s something I love sharing. Teaching people about this art form is so rewarding for me. This was my first time at 1n10 and I had a blast. Everyone was so welcoming and full of life and love! Being LGBT and coming out at such a young age is so courageous to me. Seeing all their beautiful faces made my heart smile:) I hope I inspired them as much as they inspire me!
Hope you are all doing wonderful and moving forward into your dreams!!
Hugs and Love,
Moni-k:)
